Comments on: Crying: Can Real Men Cry? http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/ Thoughts and Reflections on Modern Masculinity Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:57:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Boyhood and Manhood issues « Kutumaini’s Blog http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-19 Boyhood and Manhood issues « Kutumaini’s Blog Sun, 26 Jul 2009 09:37:47 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-19 [...] A’Real’ Boy - Childhood Experiences of Homosexual Men - The Gender Perception of Pain -Can Real Man Cry? - What Is A Man? Possibly related posts: (automatically generated)Jesus – the man’s [...] […] A’Real’ Boy - Childhood Experiences of Homosexual Men - The Gender Perception of Pain -Can Real Man Cry? - What Is A Man? Possibly related posts: (automatically generated)Jesus – the man’s […]

]]> By: Sean http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-17 Sean Thu, 26 Feb 2009 15:35:52 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-17 Jonathon, I agree, it is a delicate balance, and every father needs to act from a place of parental love. Fathers need to find the balance between compassionate, loving support of their children and holding back to encourage the growth their children need to become competent men and women in the world. sean Jonathon,

I agree, it is a delicate balance, and every father needs to act from a place of parental love. Fathers need to find the balance between compassionate, loving support of their children and holding back to encourage the growth their children need to become competent men and women in the world.

sean

]]> By: Jonathon http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-14 Jonathon Thu, 26 Feb 2009 14:42:15 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-14 I tend to agree with your assessment, and although I have no children, I think that you're probably right to avoid paying too much attention to your child when he accidentally acquires a slight injury. It's a delicate balance though, and I'd say you'll know when he really gets injured if he cries even when you're not paying attention. That may be an insight to the larger question of when and whether a "real man" should cry. Should he curse when he hits his thumb with a hammer? Well, whether or not he should, he will do what comes naturally regardless of whether anyone's listening; so, what I'm trying to say is that one should express one's emotions without trying to use these expressions to garner attention -- unless one really needs assistance from others. Additionally, I feel strongly that every man is an individual. I prefer to separate the concept of manhood from the concept of masculinity. There is value to masculinity, but it also comes at a cost that is too high for some men; that is their prerogative and they are, nonetheless, still men. I tend to agree with your assessment, and although I have no children, I think that you’re probably right to avoid paying too much attention to your child when he accidentally acquires a slight injury. It’s a delicate balance though, and I’d say you’ll know when he really gets injured if he cries even when you’re not paying attention. That may be an insight to the larger question of when and whether a “real man” should cry. Should he curse when he hits his thumb with a hammer? Well, whether or not he should, he will do what comes naturally regardless of whether anyone’s listening; so, what I’m trying to say is that one should express one’s emotions without trying to use these expressions to garner attention — unless one really needs assistance from others.

Additionally, I feel strongly that every man is an individual. I prefer to separate the concept of manhood from the concept of masculinity. There is value to masculinity, but it also comes at a cost that is too high for some men; that is their prerogative and they are, nonetheless, still men.

]]> By: Jim L. http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-11 Jim L. Sat, 07 Jun 2008 10:51:56 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-11 I never use to cry or felt the need to. After 40 I got realy sick since then I get emotional waching a good tv ad. But I always try my best to hide it. I'll leave the room, go to the bath room, something so that no one sees me cry. And yet when I see another man cry with good cause. I think, to myself, ''that's a though thing to do". So in my eyes it takes a real man to be able to cry in public. Me I don't have the balls to. And that's my problem, well at least one of them . Jim L. I never use to cry or felt the need to. After 40 I got realy sick since then I get emotional waching a good tv ad. But I always try my best to hide it. I’ll leave the room, go to the bath room, something so that no one sees me cry. And yet when I see another man cry with good cause. I think, to myself, ”that’s a though thing to do”. So in my eyes it takes a real man to be able to cry in public. Me I don’t have the balls to. And that’s my problem, well at least one of them . Jim L.

]]> By: Jefferson http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-2 Jefferson Mon, 18 Jun 2007 16:54:24 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/can-real-men-cry/#comment-2 I don't cry very often either. A few movies get me sometimes. I will well up in certain parts of The Color Purple, Schindler's List and other sad movies , but rarely actually cry. I think it's fine to cry. Except for maybe the 'not getting my Harley' situation. I don’t cry very often either. A few movies get me sometimes. I will well up in certain parts of The Color Purple, Schindler’s List and other sad movies , but rarely actually cry. I think it’s fine to cry. Except for maybe the ‘not getting my Harley’ situation.

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