Fear of Vibrators
posted by Sean
Tom at brakar.com, recently wrote “How to Compete With a Vibrator“. Quoting an Esquire Sexpert column where a reader asks about a vibrator desensitizing his woman to the point where he cannot please her, Tom comments:
Ahem… If I may slide in my two cents here… A woman can satisfy herself much faster than you can satisfy her. Just as you can satisfy yourself single handed much faster then when you’re making a team effort. You can’t compete with that, and you should not even try. Instead, try to take control of the situation. Take it slow. Tease her and take pauses. Build up the sexual tension and she will climax way much better than she does on her own.
I agree wholeheartedly with Tom, and take it a step further: Men, if your woman knows how to please herself with a vibrator, she can help you learn where her hot spots are. Even better, you can manipulate those differently than she can, with or without use of a tool to help you.
Her vibrator is not a competitor, it’s your scout. If your woman knows the terrain of her body well enough to use a tool on it, she can help you be a better lover, and a good lover is way better than a plastic toy. If she doesn’t already know that, this is your chance to show her.
June 18th, 2007 at 11:47 am
Hey Sean. Thanks for posting about me! I think you have a great point, when you recommend using her sex tools as a scout. And I’m sure that any woman would agree that “a good lover is better than a plastic toy.” Good luck with your blog. I’ve added your RSS to my Google Reader and look forward to reading more from you.