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It is amazing what kind of damage keeping a secret can do to your soul. From a masculine perspective, if you’re keeping a secret, there maintaining a duality between your public image and your internal image. All of the energy you put into maintaining the secret, presenting a public image that dissonates with your inner image is energy which should be put into pursuing your greater purpose.

In a relationship context, this is very damaging, and nearly always unnecessary. The feminine ability to forgive is amazing when the masculine maintains his core and remains true to his greater purpose.

Should there be complete openness and honesty? Maybe not. Complete honesty doesn’t always serve his greater purpose. Does she need to be told that he found the cashier at the supermarket attractive? No, because if she was there, she knows.

Be consistent, internally and externally, with your greater purpose. If your current relationship causes you to be inconsistent, perhaps she is not the woman for you. If you cause yourself to be inconsistent, perhaps it is time to come clean so you can achieve that consistency, so you have more energy for achieving your greater purpose.