Comments on: The Duty of Fathers to Their Little Girls http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/ Thoughts and Reflections on Modern Masculinity Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:44:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Fathered Five » Blog Archive » What do Daughters Need from Fathers? http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-9 Fathered Five » Blog Archive » What do Daughters Need from Fathers? Fri, 13 Jul 2007 01:56:18 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-9 [...] you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!A short post and comments over at Modern Masculinity has me thinking about daughters. I have two, on opposite ends of the spectrum in many ways. Dani is [...] […] you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!A short post and comments over at Modern Masculinity has me thinking about daughters. I have two, on opposite ends of the spectrum in many ways. Dani is […]

]]> By: Sean http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-8 Sean Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:12:22 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-8 Joe, I think most fathers remember how we looked at girls when we were younger. They were beautiful, mysterious, even forbidden. At the same time, a surge of hormones flooded our bodies telling us that we MUST get closer. I don't have a daughter, and I know that I will greet the inevitable loss of control with a full grown-up tantrum that I hope she doesn't see. We all have to realize at some point that, as fathers, we cannot protect our little ones for their entire lives. Our real jobs are to give them the tools and knowledge they need to go out into the world and make the best possible decisions for themselves. And, occasionally, give them a nudge; even when they're 40, they'll still be our little ones sniffling over skinned elbows. Joe,

I think most fathers remember how we looked at girls when we were younger. They were beautiful, mysterious, even forbidden. At the same time, a surge of hormones flooded our bodies telling us that we MUST get closer.

I don’t have a daughter, and I know that I will greet the inevitable loss of control with a full grown-up tantrum that I hope she doesn’t see. We all have to realize at some point that, as fathers, we cannot protect our little ones for their entire lives. Our real jobs are to give them the tools and knowledge they need to go out into the world and make the best possible decisions for themselves.

And, occasionally, give them a nudge; even when they’re 40, they’ll still be our little ones sniffling over skinned elbows.

]]> By: Joe http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-6 Joe Thu, 12 Jul 2007 03:32:55 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-6 My daughter is 15 (going on 18). I dread the dates, the boys, her figure [shudder!] I don't know exactly why; it's not protectionism, exactly. I'm going to think more about this. My daughter is 15 (going on 18). I dread the dates, the boys, her figure [shudder!] I don’t know exactly why; it’s not protectionism, exactly. I’m going to think more about this.

]]> By: Jefferson http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-3 Jefferson Mon, 18 Jun 2007 17:06:55 +0000 http://www.modernmasculinity.com/the-duty-of-fathers-to-their-little-girls/#comment-3 hehe ... My brother-in-law says as soon as my niece hits puberty, she's wearing 4 sweaters and 3 pairs of overalls to school. Also, he won't admit it, but we think my Step-Dad ran a background check on my bro-in-law when he started to date my sis a long time ago. Cop families are great. :-/ Anywho, I remember there was some show a while back (can't remember what exactly), but they were trying to make the point of how parents should tell their daughters they are smart and intelligent and capable of achieving anything they want more than telling them they are beautiful and pretty they are. I agree that no parent should ever tell their child they are ugly, but instead of reinforcing the outside, try and reinforce their inside qualities. hehe … My brother-in-law says as soon as my niece hits puberty, she’s wearing 4 sweaters and 3 pairs of overalls to school. Also, he won’t admit it, but we think my Step-Dad ran a background check on my bro-in-law when he started to date my sis a long time ago. Cop families are great. :-/

Anywho, I remember there was some show a while back (can’t remember what exactly), but they were trying to make the point of how parents should tell their daughters they are smart and intelligent and capable of achieving anything they want more than telling them they are beautiful and pretty they are. I agree that no parent should ever tell their child they are ugly, but instead of reinforcing the outside, try and reinforce their inside qualities.

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